Dead line

You need to set deadlines for everything, it maybe the period of grief or it maybe the period of happiness, 

You can't always be happy and you cannot be sad, both should be equally managed, that's when there's a perfect balance in life. if you are always sad you will look like an clod, if you are always happy you will look like an mentally affected person, but you might think that being happy will make you seem like an enjoyable person but that's how you will not be, when everyone is crying and you have a wide U shape in your mouth you're for sure considered as someone who has lost the mind. You need to know when to laugh and when to cry. 

This applies in our relationships too, you should be complimenting your partner daily, this may sound diametric but that's the sad truth, at the same time. Sadness is essential, if you are not sad how can you be happy(Just kidding) it's an example. 

If you are sad, you need to understand that, it makes you stressed, it affects your health, it affects your relationship with people. So setting yourself a deadline like, I need to get this right before the new year. Setting yourself those deadlines will make you feel better, so you know that it's gonna be okay in n days.

If you have assumed numbers in your head, you know that you'll laugh in n days. Thinking of that will make you refreshed and certain about your work.

But in reality it may not go as planned and things may go wrong but setting those deadlines brings you back to the present and it makes you worry less about the future. 

Always have a phrase for yourself to control your mind. My favourite phrase is "Whatever Happens, life should move on"

Thanks for reading!