Marriage Talks
Once a person turns over age 22 marriage talks start to crawl around the home. They never ask permission from the groom or bride about marriage, because according to parents it is personal between them, they decide what kind of personality their daughter in law or Son in law should have, but at the end of the day it's their offspring who's going to live with that person for life long. So if you are really in the process of enlightening your girl's future, ask them what type of guy they need? What kind of personality? And so on. This generation of teens have specific goals in life and they have a vision on how their future should look like? If they pursue their dreams, that's what brings them happiness, if you think that marrying them to a random stranger because of wealth, skin tone, and high amount of dowry, expensive cars and much more will make them happy. That's probably because of the surroundings around you, your neighborhood, and your friends. They are making you fall in a pit because they're already in and now they are trying to make you fall. Be aware of those pits. Most people don't get their loved one because of the neighbors.
Imagine your dad or mom speaking about your marriage with a neighbor which is 5 years away. And 5 years later; you are exclaiming your parents that you love someone and immediately they'll remember the word which was told by them to the other person 5 years ago. And surely he/she will be a spoiler. Because he/she will eventually end up making your dad and mom feel insecure. But they don't need to worry about that random bonehead.
It's their girl and boy's future. Make them choose it, I don't mean that you don't have any kind of relatedness between your lovable children, you surely have. But don't make your expectation as their reality. They have a different kind of expectation about life and surely everyone does. Accept your children's expectations and make that a reality. Your daughter and son will always love you, for sure they'll love you always❤️, but if you make their expectation a reality. They will love you even more🥰. That's how we enlighten our offspring's life. Ignore every knucklehead you meet in life because it's your life to choose not some random blockhead😑.
